Am I Normal?

January / February 2015

By Julie Ung

A question that I get asked a lot by my clients is "Am I normal?" or "Is what I am doing normal?" They are usuallly referring to a set of behaviors or certain personality traits when asking these types of questions. My answer to them is:

Normal is relative. Something that seems normal for one person may be completely bizarre to someone else. What is normal? Does normal even exist? Who defines normal? Instead of asking yourself if you are normal, ask yourself, “Is what I am doing, or how I am interacting with others working? Is what I am doing healthy?”

Assessing this is more critical to the client’s wellbeing than determining whether or not they fit into a certain mold or status quo. If the answer to the above question is no, then we can begin to have a much more productive conversation about how things can be done differently to improve lives and relationships.